How To Avoid Making Excuses By Mariam Adeyemi Timmer


Building self-discipline is all about putting an end to excuses.  It’s about taking responsibility for your behavior and your life.  It’s about getting the most out of all life has to offer. And, if you want to get the most out of life, you have to get up off of your backside and go after your goals. Anybody can tell you what they would like from life and, most people will tell you. However, when push comes to shove, how many people do you know who are committed to pursuing their goals and are relentless in doing so. My bet is that if you are honest, you will know very few people who really fit this description. If you want to be like these people, you need to avoid making excuses and take action.

The ability to avoid making excuses and focus on the task at hand is seriously underrated. There are many things, which can come between you and your goal, and, some of them will lie outside of your control. When these kinds of events occur, it is easy to start pointing the finger at everybody else.  Honestly, there are times when it feels good to have somebody to blame. It can help you to feel better about yourself at that moment in time but when that moment passes, you see that blaming others is a waste of time and energy. In the long run, constantly blaming others makes you lazy and weak. If you want to achieve your goals, you need to accept the setbacks, identify ways to overcome them and, get back on track.

If you are not achieving the results you want; it’s time to put an end to excuses.  The following are some tips to help you avoid making excuses.

  1. Take responsibility

I’ve touched on this earlier, but it is the foundation of success. Whatever your goal may be, you are going to struggle to achieve it unless you take responsibility for your life. When you accept responsibility for your life and, learn to focus on the things, which you can control, you will find it very easy to avoid making excuses when things go wrong.

You must always accept responsibility for the things you do and the things you fail to do. Even when events outside of your control occur, you should avoid making excuses and identify the things, which you can change to get a better result next time.  When you accept responsibility you take control of your life.  Making excuses robs you of your personal power.

  1. Focus on what matters

Most excuses occur after the fact i.e. something has to go wrong before you point out that it’s not your responsibility. This is particularly evident in the field of time management. Most people waste valuable time on things that do not really matter. As a result, they fail to complete the tasks, which really matter.

They then respond to productivity problems by making excuses.  It’s a way for them to justify poor decision-making. You can avoid making excuses here by avoiding these situations. To do that, you simply need to identify the most important tasks and, focus on completing them. If you then have spare time, you can focus on tasks of lesser importance.

3.Consider life as a training ground

When you start to regard life as a training ground, setbacks are painted in a new light.  Rather than berate yourself for mistakes you realize that failure to achieve your goal provides an amazing opportunity to learn from your mistakes. When you implement what you learn, you achieve much better results. With this attitude, you begin to see failure as an essential part of your education in life.

Learning from your failure conditions you and makes you stronger.  This is both a way to get a mental edge and an absolute truth.  Adversity is a way to become smarter, stronger, more resilient, experienced and skilled.  Next time you experience a setback; avoid making excuses and seek out the lesson to be learned.

  1. Remember the long-term goal

It is your long-term goals that are really important, ultimately. If you were to focus solely on your long-term goals, you might feel overwhelmed by the size of the goal and the fact that the deadline is far away. That is why you must break your long term goals down into smaller goals which you can achieve quicker, allowing you to feel like you have accomplished something and, take a step towards your long term goal.

This way, you achieve your most important goals, step by step.  When you find the temptation to make excuses, there’s no better time to think of your long-term goals.  This helps clarify where you are at, and why you are doing the things you are doing. You can see the rewards that await you at the end of the journey, which builds your motivation.


  1. Expect Challenges

Almost nothing worthwhile in life comes without a fight.  Challenges are an essential part of life, which should be embraced, engaged and overcome as they allow you to grow as a person.  Whether you like it or not, you will face challenges along the way so, you might as well avoid making excuses and get on with the job of overcoming them.

Excuses won’t get you anywhere at all.  Instead, they are a terrible distraction, which takes your focus off of your most important tasks and, reduces your confidence and self-belief. So, avoid making excuses and face your challenges head on. You will be more empowered, more confident and more successful.

If you want to get from where you are in life to where you want to be, you need to avoid making excuses and focus on the tasks that are going to get you there. If excuses were currency, we would all be rich but for all the excuses that we make, they provide nothing of value. Instead, they take away your personal power and your self-belief. If you avoid making excuses, you can take responsibility for your life and take consistent, and focused action on moving closer to your goals.

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